Stop Beating Yourself Up

I have a client who’s one of the strongest people in my program.

In fact, we call her our “Resident Badass.”

When I say she’s strong, I mean strong.

And there have been a couple of times recently when she achieved amazing things during the training session and walked out of the gym very disappointed.

The first time, she was on her way to what she thought was a squat PR. But I didn’t like how her knees looked and how much she was struggling with the second and third reps of a 5-rep set.

Being her coach, my primary responsibility is to prevent my clients from injuring themselves. So naturally, I told her to stop and re-rack the bar after the third rep.

She was pissed!

But I knew it was the right and safe thing to do.

There is always another day to squat or deadlift … as long as you listen to your body and your coach!

A couple of weeks later, Resident Badass relied on me to decide what her heaviest attempt for 8 trap bar deadlifts would be for the day. I glanced at her numbers and thought I saw that last week she’d done 245 x 6 … so that’s what I was going to have her attempt for 8 reps on this day. (I told you she’s strong as hell!)

But … I made a mistake! I misread/misremembered her sheet. She actually should’ve been attempting 255 … 

She was feeling great, had a good night’s sleep, and was really disappointed she didn’t get a chance to PR.

It’s OK to be disappointed.

If something like this happens, spend a few minutes to “feel the feelings” … and then, move on.

We’re all playing the long game, and never want to treat any workout like it’s our last.

Because if we do that consistently enough, one day it will be.

Be happy and proud of your accomplishments, and stop beating yourself up.